Very often, I speak way before I think. It’s a very bad habit of mine. Sometimes it can be very funny things that come out of my mouth, and sometimes they are very inappropriate. Sometimes they are very profound.
Then there are other times when I just say something that is plain stupid. Suggesting I should teleport next is probably one of those times. Why did I say that? Do I really feel like I can actually do this? I feel my body getting warm with nervousness. Oh boy. Inside I am really scared. I feel like my kids weren’t scared because they just did it without thinking about it. But of course my dumb ass announces it to my whole family! Probably stupid.
But before I get into my possibility of teleporting, I have to share this email I just received from my kids’ mother. It has disturbed me on many levels and I’d like to share it with my readers and listeners so you can see what I am STILL going through.
| Please stop emailing Haley about Craft. She’s not his parent. Clearly you aren’t either. Like, you live two blocks away. Come knock on the door. See if Craft is okay. You knew I was away. Ask him to dinner. Check in on him. Call him. Imagine if something really was wrong and you sent an email to your daughter. Thank you for not writing bullshit about me in the blog anymore, I appreciate it. |
The backstory here is that we are now in present day. Craft is now 16 years old and Haley is now in college. Craft and I have been hanging out pretty regularly but for some reason he wasn’t returning my texts and calls. He hasn’t been the best at responding to me in a timely fashion, but this time seemed different. Then I start getting messages from his high school that he is missing school- actually a few days. I text him again asking what’s going on with no response. Now I’m really concerned. I contact Haley to see if she knows anything. It’s what a concerned father should do right? I don’t hear back from her either. So I call the school and they tell me he has missed a few days and he has been late for school a few days as well. And they tell me they were told I was with him at an “appointment” which was his excuse for being tardy? I was never at an appointment with him. What the heck is going on?
Finally after about a week, Craft responds back that he wasn’t feeling well and that he was having some issues. I was very happy to hear from him finally, but obviously concerned as to why he was avoiding me. He apologized and said our relationship was fine. He was just going though a rough patch of life. I asked him why he told the school I was on an appointment with him and he said he didn’t tell them that. He told the school that his mother was on a trip with her mom in the Dominican Republic and that I was the only parent in town.
I had no clue she was on a trip and that he was left alone. Craft did tell me his mother was taking a trip without him but I had no idea when it was happening. Why was my 16 year old son left alone for a week? He could have certainly stayed with us! Or at least I could have been informed that he was going to be left to his own devices so I could have checked in on him! Do parents really leave their kids home alone for a week? Now he was sick and had no one at home to care for him? My goodness!
And why can’t I contact his sister when I don’t hear from him? I really did consider knocking on his door but I thought his mom was there. And as I stated before, this isn’t the first time I don’t hear from Craft. Sometimes he is terrible at getting back to me. I’ve had friends tell me it’s occasional teenage boy behavior. I used to get really upset about it but now I just wait for him to respond. And eventually he does.
But I mostly wanted to share this with my precious readers and listeners so you could see the toxicity that still reigns in my ex’s head. I’m actually being told to not contact my daughter. I had no idea she was on vacation and left my son alone home and sick by himself. If something was really wrong, she wouldn’t be there to be his mom. I called him and texted him multiple times but accused of not doing any of that. And after all that, I’m being thanked for not writing “BS” about her.
Well again, I’m going to state that there has been no BS in this blog and podcast. Everything is true and factual. It has to be factual because if there were lies, she would definitely be the one to take me to court again. But I have an ex-wife who wants to a) hide the truth and b) spend a lot of her time putting me down and not accepting any of her faults. It could drive a man insane. Not me though. Fortunately I have a great life that offsets all the negativity that comes from her world over there. And I have this blog and podcast to share what I have to go through as a divorced father- in the past and still in present time.
She shouldn’t have left Craft home alone. Her and I don’t communicate, but she knows Craft could have stayed with me or had me at least check in on him. But she will never own up to her mistakes. But now it’s my mistake for not doing more to contact Craft when I had no idea he was without his mother. Was Haley also mad at her for leaving Craft alone and now I was contacting her? I can’t email and communicate with my daughter?? I’m being told how to parent now. This is truly the BS I have to deal with.
Despite all this drama, I think it’s great she is an avid follower of ‘Porters and Hurricanes. It makes it way more interesting. Let’s see how she responds next when she reads this.